Welcome to the second installment of “Get To Know Tizzy”. If you missed the first installment, you can check it out HERE. You might get a bit confused if you have not read the first part. I am went pretty deep with my first post, so I am going to try to make this segment a little less morbid. That is why I chose such a goofy photo to start out this post. I hope you enjoy getting to know me a bit better.
11. I am a grandmother
On this past Christmas night at 11:11pm, I became a grandmother to a gorgeous, blue-eyed little boy. Since I was only a few months away from turning 40, I did not want to be called Grandma, Nana, or Granny. I am GiGi. It is more hip and hopefully will be easy for him to say once he learns more sounds. Right now, he is seven-months-old and the only word he really says is “dada”. I got my tubes tied after I had my daughter, thirteen years ago, and I have regretted it over the years. But, being a GiGi to this little guy makes me feel a lot better. Plus, this past week I kept him to give my son and his wife a break, and I learned that I am just too damn old to try to take care of a baby full time. Being a GiGi means I can give the baby back when I am getting just too tired to keep up. He is such an amazing kid, and I cannot wait to see him grow up into an amazing young man, but the time does go by too fast. If only it could slow down just a little.
12. I have the most amazing fiance
In the summer of 2009, I met an amazing guy on a social network site called myyearbook.com, now known as meetme.com. I really started out just messing with him out of boredom. He was cute, but I was not looking for any kinds of a relationship, especially a long distance one. At the time, I was living in Indiana with my two kids. He was living down in Georgia. But, after some online chatting, we exchanged phone numbers. He is originally from Philly, so when we talked for the first time, his accent made me homesick. I grew up just an hour away in Toms River, NJ. I loved his voice and loved getting to know him. We would talk every minute that we could. If we were not talking, we were texting. My feelings were growing fast, and I had never laid eyes on this guy in person. So, in October, we made plans for him to fly up to visit with me. We only had a week, but it was the best week of my life. I fell head over heels in love with him and cried my eyes out the entire day that I had to take him back to the airport. After he left, I had decided that I had to make plans for us to be together physically. When tax time rolled around, I packed up my home and hopped in a U-haul and headed for Georgia. We got engaged five years ago and have been together for nine years. It always amazes me that he has put up with me for as long as he has. I am not an easy person, being bi-polar, and my kids are not the easiest either, but he loves us all unconditionally. I thank God every day for putting this amazing, funny, generous, loving, and compassionate man in my life.
13. My fiance is a professional wrestler
I know this is not exactly about me, but I love to brag on him. My fiance is an indy wrestler. He wrestles all over the state of Georgia and has also done shows in several other states. Before I came along, he had even wrestled in Amsterdam. He has held several championship titles, so you know he is really good at what he does. I do not go to many shows since we do not have a car, but I am his biggest fan! You can do a search on YouTube by entering in “Shane Marx” into the search. You will find several of his matches there. You can also follow him on Instagram. I tried to find a short match, so you can see him in action. Enjoy!
14. I finally have a relationship with my father
My father has lived in Florida for most of my life. I grew up in New Jersey with my mother. For reasons only she knows, I was unable to have a relationship with my father. I did have two other great men in my life growing up, so there was no lack of male influence on my life. I did visit him for a week when I was 11-years-old, but for reasons I rather not talk about, our relationship was severed again. As an adult, I reached out, but because of me being stupid, I cut ties with him again. However, in the past couple of years, we have made an effort to keep in touch. He even came to Georgia for a visit last year. It was brief, but I cherished every moment we had with him. I had a lot of growing up to do, but since I have, our relationship is all the better for it. We may not get to see each other as much as we would like to, but I am happy to have him as a part of my life, my children’s lives, and my grandson’s life.
15. I am an only child
Some of you might think that I am lucky to have been an only child, but I have to disagree. I wish I had someone to share my life with while growing up or to be my protector. I had just me, and it really sucked. My life as a child was not easy. I got my butt whipped more times than I can count. Sometimes I feel like some internal frustrations were taken out on me instead of just being punished for doing something wrong. Imagine getting the belt because you ate an English Muffin because you came home from school hungry. Imagine spending hours crying in your room with no one to share or understand your pain. I don’t wish what I endured on anyone, but I think that if I had a sibling, things would have been a bit easier.
16. I am a chronic procrastinator
I am the type of person who waits until the moments before a deadline to get things done. For example, while I was going to college online, I would wait until Sundays to do all of my assignments before they are all due at midnight. Sometimes, I would submit my assignments just minutes before the deadline. The funny thing is…I actually do my best work under pressure like that. I cannot even remember getting a grade below an A for any of those last minute assignments.
17. I live in clutter
The funny thing about the fact that I live among clutter is that I hate it. I also hate the idea of cleaning things up. However, if I do clean up on a whim, I absolutely love and relish in the cleanliness. My therapist says that it is a symptom of my ADHD and bi-polar. Now, I hope Y’all don’t think I live in a pig sty…LOL. My home is clean, but my desk and bedroom are a mess most of the time. Every now and then, I get into a kick where I start straightening up my mess. I always feel so good after and say that I will not let it get that way again, but it always gets that way again. I just can’t help it.
18. I had weight loss surgery
In the early part of June 2017, I had weight loss surgery. The process was started six months prior when I tipped the scales at 330 pounds. I opted for the gastric sleeve as it seemed to be the least evasive of weight loss surgery options. My surgery was successful with no complications. I only spent one night in the hospital. When I got home, I felt like I was punched in the gut for a couple of days. I was up and about, though. Fast forward to now, I am down 70 pounds. I was down 75, but I fluctuate between 260 and 255. The surgery did not yield the expected results. I only threw up once from not chewing something properly a few days after surgery. I do not have any adverse effects from any foods. Those are the things that are expected to happen which makes the weight come off better. But, I have found that I can eat anything and not in super small portions either. I do eat a lot less than I used to, but not small enough amounts to keep the weight peeling off. I know that I have to take most of the blame for not losing as much weight as I should have, so please do not think I am blaming the surgery.
19. I once broke my wrist while riding a scooter
I think I was about 12-years-old when this happened. You see, I was a tomboy and was always out on a skateboard, scooter, or roller blades. On this day, I was riding one of those skateboards that had a scooter bar. The boys were all popping wheelies on theirs, so I tried to show off and pop my back wheels. Well, that was not the best idea. I popped up my back wheels and ended up throwing myself right over the handlebars. It did not really hurt at first. I went to my mom to get checked out, and I told her I was fine. The circus was in town that night and my dad was going to take me that evening, so I sure did not want to go to the hospital. One of my friends grabbed my hand and pulled saying, “C’mon let’s play.” I almost passed out from that pain. But, I went about playing because I really wanted to go to the circus. While at the circus, I sat two rows in front of my dad and cried the whole time. I was in a ton of pain. He noticed and took me out to the ambulance that was there and got my wrist wrapped up. Once we got home, I was adamant that I was fine. I was scared to go to the hospital, so I cried all night long. The next morning, my mother asked me if I was okay or if I was ready to go to the hospital. She heard me cry all night, but I told her I was fine. So, she went to work. After being home alone for an hour, I could no longer take the pain, and called my mother at work and asked her to take me to the hospital. Come to find out, I had fractured my wrist and needed a cast. I was a trooper and have no regrets because I did get to go to the circus.
20. I am a General Hosptial fanatic
I absolutely love this show! I grew up watching it with my mom. I remember all of the old Luke and Laura adventure episodes. I remember Robin dating Stone and him passing away. I remember when Frisco and Felicia were the couple to be. But, nowadays, I am in love with JaSam. Jason and Sam are so meant to be together. I just wonder if I am the only one who tears up when they play their song in the background during some of their scenes. Anyhoo…that is enough about me, for now.
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Tizzy Says…Difficult roads lead to beautiful destinations.